為什么會(huì)被同事嫉妒
你在工作中比別人出色，你更快地獲得了提升和加薪，憑什么好事都你一個(gè)人得了?接下來(lái)，小編給大家準(zhǔn)備了為什么會(huì)被同事嫉妒,歡迎大家參考與借鑒。
為什么會(huì)被同事嫉妒
If you're the object of another's jealousy1:
如果你是被妒忌的對(duì)象：
Save the brag-athon for after work.
吹噓留到下班后
"It's often not the closer relationships with bosses, the promotions2, or the raises that create hostility," explains Tina Lewis Rowe, a career coach in Denver. "It's the way the employee with good fortune handles it.”
來(lái)自丹佛市的職業(yè)教練Tina Lewis Rowe說(shuō)：“導(dǎo)致敵意的往往不是和老板關(guān)系緊密、晉升或加薪，而是交了好運(yùn)的員工處理的方式。”
Don't name-drop the CEO you had lunch with, mention the conference you're attending or talk excitedly about your new job or salary with less-fortunate coworkers. "Even a saint would have trouble smiling and being happy for someone in those circumstances," she says.
當(dāng)著不那么幸運(yùn)的同事們的面，不要說(shuō)自己和CEO共進(jìn)午餐，不要提你參加的會(huì)議、或者興奮地談?wù)撃愕男鹿ぷ骰蛐剿?。她說(shuō)：“即便圣人也很難在這種情況下為別人微笑或高興?！?/p>
Don't apologize.
不要賠不是
It's natural to feel humbled3 by a wonderful career development, but those who didn't get the raise don't want to hear how undeserving you feel, said Lewis Rowe. Chances are, they might agree.
Lewis Rowe說(shuō)，你得到一次極好的職業(yè)發(fā)展機(jī)會(huì)自然會(huì)感到自己卑微，但是沒有獲得提拔的人們可不希望聽見你說(shuō)自己多么不配。他們可能會(huì)附議。
De-escalate tension.
緩和緊張關(guān)系
If you're a new manager for former peers, encourage your new staff's strengths.
如果你是過(guò)去同事的新經(jīng)理，那么鼓勵(lì)新手下發(fā)揮其長(zhǎng)處。
"You need to know what to do to make all the people (in your department) stars," she says. "I was always finding the most successful people and promoting them out from underneath4 me. That's an accomplishment5 that the employee and the manager can agree they did together."
她說(shuō)：“你要知道怎樣做才能讓(你部門的)每個(gè)人都成為明星。我總會(huì)去尋找最成功的人，并將他們從我手下提拔上來(lái)。這是可以通過(guò)員工和經(jīng)理協(xié)同完成的成就?！?/p>
擴(kuò)展：你嫉妒同事嗎
If there's one thing Johanna Rothman knows, it's the corrosive1 effects of jealousy2. At 30, the author of "Behind Closed Doors: Secrets of Great Management" was incensed3 when a coworker got a job she wanted. Later, when she took a job managing former peers, she felt their jealousy in curt4, backhanded compliments.
如果說(shuō)Johanna Rothman只懂得一件事，那就是嫉妒的破壞。她現(xiàn)年30歲，是《關(guān)閉的門后：偉大管理的秘密》一書的作者。她曾在一位同事得到她想要的工作后怒氣沖天。后來(lái)，當(dāng)她得到了管理同事的工作時(shí)，她感覺到了他們簡(jiǎn)單、拐彎抹角的恭維話內(nèi)隱含的妒忌。
"If you can admit you're jealous, you can start dealing5 with it," says Rothman. "If you don't, jealousy can poison your relationships."
Rothman說(shuō)：“如果你承認(rèn)自己妒忌，開始想想辦法應(yīng)對(duì)吧;如果你不承認(rèn)，妒忌會(huì)毒害你們的關(guān)系?！?/p>
Jealousy can also poison your career by distracting you from your job and forcing you into constant comparisons that leave you demoralized, she says.
她說(shuō)妒忌還會(huì)讓你在工作中分心，迫使你不斷地攀比，讓你失去斗志。
Want to curb6 your or others' jealousy while keeping your eye on your goals? Consider these tips:
你希望專注于自己的目標(biāo)，同時(shí)抑制住自己的或別人的妒忌嗎? 可以考慮以下方法：
If you're jealous:
如果你有妒忌心
Track your accomplishments7.
記錄你的工作業(yè)績(jī)
"Do a month-by-month resume" for the past year, Rothman advises. "When I did this, I saw that there was a real theme: It was all about the project and nothing about the people. It was clear I really wasn't ready to be a manager."
Rothman建議人們?cè)谝荒陜?nèi)“每月寫工作記錄”。“當(dāng)這樣做后，我發(fā)現(xiàn)我工作內(nèi)容的主線：全部是和項(xiàng)目有關(guān)的，與人無(wú)關(guān)。很顯然我還沒有做好當(dāng)經(jīng)理的準(zhǔn)備?！?/p>
Talk to your boss.
和老板談?wù)?/p>
Bring your monthly resume to your boss; show him your skills and ask why you didn't get the promotion8, says Rothman. Be clear that you're doing this because you want the promotion or raise next time.
Rothman說(shuō)把你的每月工作記錄拿給老板看看;在他面前展示你的技能，問一問為什么沒有獲得那次提升機(jī)會(huì)。表明你這么做是因?yàn)橄麓文阆氆@得提升或加薪。
"My boss had no idea how productive I'd been," she recalls. "I learned to keep updating my resume and to inform my boss of what was going on regularly. In a few months, a bigger job opened up and I got it. My boss realized I was perfect for it."
她回憶道：“我的老板過(guò)去一點(diǎn)也不知道我的工作情況如何，我學(xué)會(huì)了更新工作記錄，并定期提醒老板我正在進(jìn)行的工作。幾個(gè)月后，有另一個(gè)更大的工作職位空缺，我得到了。老板發(fā)現(xiàn)我是最合適的人選。”
Develop your skills.
培養(yǎng)技能
Ask the person you envy how she learned to do what she does, and beef up your skill set. Then it's not about her anymore -- it's about developing your career.
問一問你妒忌的人是如何學(xué)會(huì)做現(xiàn)在的工作，增強(qiáng)自身本領(lǐng)。那么這就和她無(wú)關(guān)了——這是一件有關(guān)職業(yè)發(fā)展的事情。
"It turns out my new boss was the best manager I'd ever had," says Rothman. "But if I admitted, 'Look, Johanna, you're jealous,' I wouldn't have been able to work with her."
Rothman說(shuō)：“結(jié)果證明我的新上司是我遇到的最好的經(jīng)理。但是如果我承認(rèn)‘瞧，Johanna，你的嫉妒心又來(lái)了’，那么我就不能和她一起工作了?！?br />
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