英語(yǔ)美文：做自己的朋友

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　　Friendship with oneself is all important, becausewithout it one cannot be friends with anyone else inthe world.- Eleanor Roosevelt

　　We often focus on building relationships with othersthat we forget the essential first step: being friendsof ourselves. That is the crucial first step if we areto have good relationships with others. How can wehave good relationships with others if we don't evenhave good relationship with ourselves?

　　The problem might be worse than we expect. Maybewe don't like ourselves without realizing it. Here is a simple checklist; is there anything you don'tlike about yourself from these list?

　　Your past

　　Maybe you have made mistakes in the past which you feel bad about. You might bedisappointed with yourself on why you could make such mistakes. Even if that happened indistant past, your subconscious mind still has a reason not to like yourself.

　　Your background

　　You might wish that you were born in different family, or that you have different background.Maybe you could not accept the fact that you are not as lucky as others, who seem to getwhatever they want effortlessly because of their background.

　　Your personality traits

　　You might have some personality traits that you don't like. For example, you may be anintrovert and you don't like it; you wish you are an extrovert.

　　Your achievements relative to others Others might have better achievements than you, and nomatter how hard you tried, it might seem impossible for you to match them. You might thenthink that it's because you are not smart enough or don't have enough talents. Is thereanything that resonate with you? All these give reasons to you not to like yourself. That in turnmakes it difficult for you to be a good friend to yourself.

　　Fortunately, there are always things you can do to fix the situation. Here are some tips:

　　1. Forgive yourself

　　You may have made those mistakes in the past, but is there anything you can do about them? Idon't think so, except learning from them. It's true that you are not perfect, but neither iseverybody else. It’s normal to make mistakes, so do yourself a favor by giving yourselfforgiveness.

　　2. Accept things you can't change

　　There are some things you cannot change, such as your background and your past. So learn toaccept them. You will feel much relieved if you treat things you can’t change the way theydeserve: just accept them, smile, and move on.

　　3. Focus on your strengths

　　Instead of focusing on your weaknesses, focus on your strengths. You always have somestrengths which give you a unique combination nobody else have. Recognize your strengthsand build your life around them.

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　　4. Write your success stories

　　One reason we may not like ourselves is we are too focused on what we don’t have that weforget about what we have. So make a list of your achievements; write your success stories.They do not have to be big things; there are a lot of small but important achievements in ourlife. For example, if you have some good friends, that’s already an achievement. If you have agood family, that is also an achievement.

　　5. Stop comparing yourself with others

　　You are unique. You can never be like other people, and neither can other people be like you.The way you measure your success is not determined by other people and what theyachieve. Instead, it is determined by your own life purpose. You have everything you need toachieve your life purpose, so it's useless to compare yourself with others.

　　6. Always be true to yourself

　　You don't like other people lying to you, right? Similarly, you won't like yourself if you know thatyou lie to yourself. Whether you realize it or not, that gives your mind a reason not to likeyourself. That’s why it's important to always be true to yourself. In whatever you do, be honestand follow your conscience. Remember this quote by Abraham Lincoln:

　　I desire so to conduct the affairs of this administration that if at the end . . . I have lost everyother friend on earth, I shall at least have one friend left, and that friend shall be down inside ofme.